On page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. He said, in effect if you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. Home read the big book and twelve steps and twelve traditions alcoholics anonymous alcoholics anonymous this is the fourth edition of the big book, the basic text for alcoholics anonymous. Love in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and 12. Overcoming resentment resentment hurts me most, is a saying often heard in 12step recovery meetings. Alcoholics anonymous, the big book of alcoholics anonymous. Just received a copy of tozers the pursuit of god in the mail today and started reading it. The higher my expectations of other people are, the lower is my serenity. If we are to have a clear state of consciousness that is free of conflict. When these crop up, we ask god at once to remove them. Resentment, of course, is any kind of lingering anger the residue of old hurts, disagreements, and frustrations.
Page 552 after all this, it cant be denied that the big book paints a really definite picture of the result of holding resentments. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to. To show other alcoholics precisely how we have recovered is the main purpose of this book. Page 145 i cant afford resentments against anyone, because they are the buildup of another drunk. In alcoholics anonymous we learn that resentment is a condition or state of mind whereby one relives some past event, and feels the emotion from that event as if it were happening right now. There is comfort in knowing you arent alone, that what youre feeling isnt unusual, and that there is a solution. Alcoholics anonymous, from the title of its own book. Page 325 i realized i had to get rid of it a resentment toward his mother, for my reprieve was running out, and if i didnt get rid of it i was going to. Sep 10, 2014 someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i was told to and it helped me. Aug 24, 2014 on page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. Its words and interpretations are left up to the reader to use as they choose.
In fact, on paper a lot of resentments look downright stupid. If you will ask in prayer for everything you want for yourself to be given to them, you will be free. Ask for their health, their prosperity, their happiness, and you. Anger and resentment that are allowed to smolder can create such turmoil within an alcoholic that he is driven back to alcohol to soothe his emotional unrest. The big book s way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67 instructions. The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67 instructions. The text got this name because the first edition of the book had rather thick pages, making the book even thicker than its content would suggest. Resentments in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and 12. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics anonymous. Alcoholics anonymous quotes by alcoholics anonymous.
Resentment is really a choice weve decided, on some level, or allowed ourselves to stay angry. This is the official website of the general service office g. For them, we hope these pages will prove so convincing that no further authentication will be necessary. I have provided a link in a couple of places on this page for your convenience, so you can get to the search page. Page 67 of the book, alcoholics anonymous, states, resentment is the number one offender. The whytehouse is, i hope, a way to find that special phrase or saying etc. Americangirl 05302011, newby1961 05312011, winegirl 05302011. With the appearance of the new book a great deal began to happen. Sorting and rendering passages in the proprietary format of the 164 and more concordance does not in any way imply affiliation with or endorsement by either alcoholics. These instructions are for the above prayer big book, freedom from bondage, p. The big book has given me that comfort and the push to. You can search the alcoholics anonymous big book for phrases, key words, etc. We asked god to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend.
It is a program developed in the 1930s and has been the most effective treatment for. It says resentments kills and and cause us to relapse. Core character defects 4 study from the bottom of page 63 to the end of page 65 and then follow its instructions. According to the writer of that big book chapter, they had held a deep resentment towards someone. A resentment is always about what someone or something has done to us.
See origins of aa s 4th step moral inventory it is not mentioned in the big book text at any point. The 4th step is about writing down all our resentments and taking a hard look at them. We have seen men get well whose families have not returned at all. Though we did not like their symptoms and the way these disturbed us, they, like ourselves, were sick too. Re, meaning again, andsentment, which like, sentiment, means to. Aa, the big book, the 12 steps, family, friends, structure in the. Alcoholics anonymous large print abridged fourth edition.
If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray. Resentments seem huge and powerful when theyre in your head, note the authors of a program for you, a hazelden study guide to the big book of alcoholics anonymous. We provide this study guide based on personal experience to help those following aas 12 steps as outlined in the original big book, alcoholics anonymous aa. Alcoholics anonymous recovery show business books livros book store libros. But then my rights try to move in, and they, too, can force my serenity level down. Jun 08, 2010 the resentment prayer is located at the end of a personal story in the back of the big book. There doesnt appear to be any big book stories that talk about turnarounds when describing their step work. In the second chapter tozer discusses the blessedness of posessing nothing, as related in the beatitude of the poor in spirit matthew 5. But once theyre down on paper they no longer seem so huge or powerful. Aug 26, 2019 resentments lead to grudges, grudges lead to grievances, and grievances on a national level lead to wars. The greatest enemies of us alcoholics are resentment, jealousy, frustration, and fear. The story is titled freedom from bondage i have the 3rd edition of the aa big book. Having a sponsor who helps me work the steps, and getting rid of my resentments is an ongoing process but ive made huge progress. Overcoming resentment is essential in order to achieve true peace of mind and happiness.
The worlds most notorious despots have relied on grievances against imagined enemies of the people to establish autocratic rule and subsequent persecution or genocide. The page 552 prayer to end resentments sober catholic. The step 4 inventory starts by looking at resentment, which the big book describes as the number one offender when it comes to blockage in recovery 64. The big book gives us another powerful example of how to use prayer to soften our heart toward the people we resent. Download pamphlets and handouts to use in big book group sessions our workbook companion to alcoholics anonymous 12 steps of recovery from alcoholism and addiction is called steps by the big book. Aa big book big book of aa alcoholics anonymous doctors opinion how it works aa preamble alcoholism recovery 4th edition 3rd edition 2nd edition alcohol allergy rehabilitation of alcoholics dr. The big book has given me that comfort and the push to move forward. Alcoholism12 step support page 52 big book question originally posted by liveinpeace i know that god is the key to my recovery. Aa history what does the bigbook say about resentment. Is it possible that the more we have them, the more we are moving toward our next drink, since we have used alcohol before to help us deal with them. Oct 1, 2016 on page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments towards a person. Democratic underground page 552 in the aa big book.
Resentments list all people, places, things, institutions, ideas or principles with whom you are angry, resent, feel hurt or threatened by. As an alcoholic we find that resentment is the number one offender to a serene and peaceful life. The page 552 prayer to end resentments lent, prayers. Another book that i just read references it frequently, so i thought i would read it as well. Though our decision was a vital and crucial step, it could have little permanent effect unless at once followed by a strenuous effort to face, and to be rid of, the things in ourselves which had been blocking us. It is my hope that you will find this site useful to you and our friends of bill w.
Sometimes, it isnt long resentment we must deal with, but a sudden, consuming rage. So i figured i would post it here so i have it handy. If that might be your own case, that is finejust proceed by making a list of people, institutions or principles page 64 with whom you are or have ever. The big book explains that we must make a list that includes all our resentments we have and have ever had, an account of sexual conduct and our fears. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will be free. These instructions are for the below prayer big book, freedom from bondage, p. Oct 1, 2016 on page 552 of the big book of alcoholics anonymous their basic text, there is a very helpful suggestion on how to rid yourself of resentments. When a person offended we said to ourselves, this is. I can watch my serenity level rise when i discard my expectations. The wisdom from the big book isnt limited to 10 quotes. From it stem all forms of spiritual disease, for we have been. Prayers from the big book of alcoholics anonymous i earnestly advise every alcoholic to read this book through, and though perhaps he came to scoff, he may remain to pray. Its unfortunate for those who have taken half measures, but i would be willing to put my hand out to them when they return.
The big books way to be rid of resentment pages 63 67. Just typed this up for a friend, and since i had it transcribed, thought i would share it here as well. Alcoholics anonymous large print abridged fourth edition alcoholics anonymous on. Hi everyone the following passage is from the big book of alcoholics anonymous page 552. The story of how many thousands of men and women have recovered from alcoholism is often referred to in alcoholics anonymous meetings aa as the big book. Prayers from the big book of alcoholics anonymous big book.
Expectations are premeditated resentments soberrecovery. The higher my expectations of other people are, the. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will. Breaking down step four of aa alcoholics anonymous jason. Read read of step 4 resentments in the big book the final 4 paragraphs, pp. The 24hour plan page 5 and first things first page 32 have helped many of us cope with such a rage, although we didnt see how they possibly could until we actually tried themand got surprisingly good results. Worksheets are the primary purpose group big, 12 step workbook, first step work, aas 12 steps including powerful, 12 steps in 12 weeks oa big book study format, the twelve step program, resentment inventory prompt, step 1 work. We have seen others slip when the family came back too soon. The 164 and more book, ebook, and web site are all concordances which display passages from the big book alcoholics anonymous, the twelve steps and twelve traditions, and the a. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves reading. When i am disturbed, it is because i find some person, place, thing or situation some fact of my life unacceptable to me, and i can find no serenity until i accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment. My serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations. Page 552, 4th edition someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i. Since the first edition appeared, in 1939, it has helped millions of men and women recover from alcoholism.
If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person. Oct 09, 2012 i mentioned on my recent radio show the healing power of prayer that i would post the big books resentment prayer. Resentments, bondage, prayer, forgiveness, letting go, and. This echoes language in the big book cautioning us that resentment is the biggest offender. Take away my difficulties, that victory over them may bear witness to those i would help of thy power, thy love and thy way of life. Big book acceptance is the answer to all of my problems today. Videos or graphic images may not be downloaded, copied or duplicated without the express written permission of alcoholics anonymous world services, inc. The resentment prayer is located at the end of a personal story in the back of the big book.
Twelve steps to live without resentment hazelden betty ford. Steps by the big book step 4 resentments steps by the. Step four prayer freedom from resentment step 4 of the. Resentment in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and 12. This is the fourth edition of the big book, the basic text for alcoholics anonymous. If you have a resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or the thing that you resent, you will be free. Read the big book, page 67, last paragraph through first paragraph on page 68. I am about to get started on my step 4 so havent done my resentments yet although i have a lot of old ones and i am using sober recovery. Alcoholics anonymous quotes showing of 127 and acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. Resentment in big book alcoholics anonymous, 12 steps and. It is the basic text of the fellowship of alcoholics anonymous, and has helped large numbers of alcoholic men and women, young and old, recover as of december 2009, 30,664,881 copies of the big book have been sold or otherwise distributed source aa gso ny.
I mentioned on my recent radio show the healing power of prayer that i would post the big book s resentment prayer. According to the writer of that big book chapter, they had held a deep resentment. Twelve steps to live without resentment hazelden betty. Clearly, there is no historical references that we can find to anything called turnarounds from the founders or pioneers of aa. I just am unsure i understood what everything means exactly, and if i am living up to that choice. All big book quotes are from first edition the following 3 users say thank you to boleo for this useful post. Page 552, 4th edition someone was having a problem with resentment in the meeting this morning in stepchat, and i told them to read this as i was told to and it helped me. Thats the way my drinking began, as a way to make the pain go away. If you have resentment you want to be free of, if you will pray for the person or thing that you resent, you will.
Learning the process of overcoming resentment literally saves the lives of people who are afflicted with the disease of alcoholism. The big book of alcoholics anonymous says resentment is the number one offender p. Thank you god for your help and strength with this resentment. Turnarounds turnarounds is a term used by some in aa to indicate the beneficial huge emotional displacements. We, of alcoholics anonymous, are more than one hundred men and women who have recovered from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body. Copyright alcoholics anonymous world services, inc.
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